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God is NOT Honored by an Abusive Marriage

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Abuse in Marriage Examined in Detail
God is NOT Honored by an Abusive Marriage Most churches are good at emphasizing that divorce is "taboo." The idea of getting a divorce is shameful to a godly person who earnestly seeks to please God. They believe that if they were to separate from their spouse, they are committing a grave sin, regardless of what the details may be. However there is scripture that is either misunderstood or over looked, by advisers who give counsel to those in an abusive relationship. A healthy marriage relationship will have its occasional disputes and differences of opinion at times; however there are occasions when the mindset of one partner is opposed to the godly values expressed in scripture. No marriage is perfect, there are always rocky situations as the couple learns to adjust. However in an abusive relationship, the dynamic reality consists of one partner exercising control and contempt, versus love and respect. And that changes everything. Scripture, when taken out of context by either the abuser or the codependent in a marriage, will result in an unhealthy balance of power. With concepts that "abuse does not matter, regardless of how bad it is" and "God hates divorce;" the abused party is left wondering, does God love me? Both spouses are to love and honor each other and their Creator. There must be a desire to obey God. Abuse requires two parties: an abuser and a victim. It is easy to focus on the faults of the abuser since they are more obvious, there's another problem at play. The victim who marries a verbally, emotionally, or physically abusive mate ended up at the altar because they didn't recognize the signs of a controller before saying, "I do." God created marriage to be a sacred union, not to be entered into hastily, nor abandoned easily. Church leaders need to make sure all understand why God chose to establish marriage as an important institution. Marriage is meant to be an illustration of the love and commitment, imitating the love Christ has for the Church. God is not honored by an abusive marriage! What sort of example is being set within and without the church by a marriage where the one who should be cherished and protected is beaten down with harsh words and unrealistic expectations? God's design for marriage, is found in scripture <LINK. As the following scripture portrays, the LORD has experienced marriage abuse Himself, from unfaithful relationships with ancient Israel and Judah; whom He chose to divorce! Then the LORD said: Jer 3:8-11, " 'She {Judah} saw that because faithless Israel had committed adultery, I gave her a certificate of divorce and sent her away. Yet that unfaithful sister Judah had no fear and prostituted herself as well. 9 Indifferent to her own infidelity, Israel had defiled the land and committed {spiritual idolatry} adultery with stones and trees. 10Yet in spite of all this, her unfaithful sister Judah did not return to Me with all her heart, but only in pretense,' declares the LORD. 11 Then the LORD told me, 'Unfaithful Israel has shown herself more righteous than treacherous Judah.' " 1Ki 9:8-9 "This Temple will become a pile of ruins. Everyone who passes by it will be so astounded that they will ask, 'Why did the LORD do this to this land and to this Temple?' 9 They will answer, 'Because they abandoned the LORD their God, who brought their ancestors out of the land of Egypt, and they adopted other gods and served them. That's why the Lord has brought all of this disaster on them.' " The Apostle Paul teaches us, the wife is to be cherished and nurtured by her husband, who makes himself a loving leader for his family, even as Jesus did for the church. She respects his humility and sacrifice and is eager to honor him, knowing that he will always act and speak with her best interest at heart. This is not the case in an abusive relationship. Abuse is a form of control. Abuse is a pattern of conduct by one spouse which is designed to obtain and maintain power and control over the other spouse. Such abuse can be emotional, verbal, financial, social, sexual, physical, and spiritual; such as twisting scriptures to justify the abuse. Husbands are human, fallible, sinners. Husbands do not stand in the place of Christ. Their wives relate directly to Christ, not merely through their husbands. Heb 11:6, "Now without faith it is impossible to please God, for whoever comes to Him must believe that He exists and that He rewards those who diligently search for Him." Husbands do not have the wisdom nor the power nor the rights of Christ. Therefore, if an abusive husband is breaking God's law, he is disobeying Christ and is not to be indulged as a master, but correctly disciplined. Abuse is a pattern of behavior demonstrated over a long period of time, and one in which the perpetrator refuses to change despite having been asked to do so. One of the most misquoted and misused verses to support male domination is "…wives should submit to their husbands in everything." Eph. 5:24, thus ignoring Eph 5:22 & Col 3:18, "…as is fit in the Lord." Bible scripture makes it clear, a man should bear the responsibility for leadership in the home. Eph 5:21-25, "Submit to one another out of reverence for Christ. 22 Wives, submit yourselves to your own husbands as to the Lord. 23 For the husband is the head of the wife as Christ is the head of the church, His body, of which He is the Savior.24 Now as the church submits to Christ, so also wives should submit to their husbands in everything. 25 Husbands, love your wives, just as Christ loved the church and gave Himself up for her." A husband should lead, but not as a tyrant. Eph 5:33, "However, each one of you also must love his wife as he loves himself, and the wife must respect her husband." By his leadership, she is not demeaned nor robbed of her personality, nor is he given the right to run roughshod over her opinions, feelings, hopes, goals, dreams, or creativity. He is to love and cherish her - even as Christ loved the church. He is to include her in the making of important decisions, weighing and considering her perspectives carefully and respectfully. In the end, the prerogative - and responsibility - of choosing and directing is allotted to the husband. But this option does not give him license to disregard the needs and feelings of his wife. It places the husband under a heavy charge to be even more sensitive and considerate, since he ultimately answers to God for his choices and the way he treats his wife and children. Grave errors have been made through the misapplication of the man's "headship" in the home by society and the church. If a husband is misusing his role, it is advised that the wife speaks with him about her concerns. If he is unwilling to listen, it would be very appropriate for her to bring the matter before a trusted mutual friend, a spiritual leader, and if need to the church, with civil court as a last result. The Apostle Paul, chosen by Christ to be His voice to the gentiles, shows us in 1Co 7:15, that God allows divorce because of domestic abuse, "But if the {abusive} unbeliever departs, let him depart; a brother or a sister is not under bondage in such cases." Because the unbeliever is not of God or about God. The believer was deceived and thus entrapped or enslaved. Paul used the Greek word douloo which means "to make a slave of." The Greek verb douloo has a stronger force of loosing the marriage than the verb lou which means to loose, douloo meaning there is no further obligation of the marriage vows before God. In such cases the brother or sister is not enslaved nor bound to keep their marriage vows. Paul is saying to let the unbeliever depart because the godly believer is not to be enslaved to such worldly beliefs and abuses. The Greek word "depart," chorizo means "to place space between, to separate" and it was one of the standard terms for legal divorce in the first century.

Abuse in Marriage Examined in Detail

God is NOT Honored by an Abusive Marriage

Most churches are good at emphasizing that divorce is "taboo." The idea of getting a divorce is shameful to a godly person who earnestly seeks to please God. They believe that if they were to separate from their spouse, they are committing a grave sin, regardless of what the details may be.

However there is scripture that is either misunderstood or over looked, by advisers who give counsel to those in an abusive relationship. A healthy marriage relationship will have its occasional disputes and differences of opinion at times; however there are occasions when the mindset of one partner is opposed to the godly values expressed in scripture.

No marriage is perfect, there are always rocky situations as the couple learns to adjust. However in an abusive relationship, the dynamic reality consists of one partner exercising control and contempt, versus love and respect. And that changes everything.

Scripture, when taken out of context by either the abuser or the codependent in a marriage, will result in an unhealthy balance of power. With concepts that "abuse does not matter, regardless of how bad it is" and "God hates divorce;" the abused party is left wondering, does God love me?

Both spouses are to love and honor each other and their Creator. There must be a desire to obey God.

Abuse requires two parties: an abuser and a victim. It is easy to focus on the faults of the abuser since they are more obvious, there's another problem at play. The victim who marries a verbally, emotionally, or physically abusive mate ended up at the altar because they didn't recognize the signs of a controller before saying, "I do." God created marriage to be a sacred union, not to be entered into hastily, nor abandoned easily.

Church leaders need to make sure all understand why God chose to establish marriage as an important institution. Marriage is meant to be an illustration of the love and commitment, imitating the love Christ has for the Church.

God is not honored by an abusive marriage! What sort of example is being set within and without the church by a marriage where the one who should be cherished and protected is beaten down with harsh words and unrealistic expectations? God's design for marriage, is found in scripture <LINK.

As the following scripture portrays, the LORD has experienced marriage abuse Himself, from unfaithful relationships with ancient Israel and Judah; whom He chose to divorce!

Then the LORD said: Jer 3:8-11, " 'She {Judah} saw that because faithless Israel had committed adultery, I gave her a certificate of divorce and sent her away. Yet that unfaithful sister Judah had no fear and prostituted herself as well. 9 Indifferent to her own infidelity, Israel had defiled the land and committed {spiritual idolatry} adultery with stones and trees. 10Yet in spite of all this, her unfaithful sister Judah did not return to Me with all her heart, but only in pretense,' declares the LORD. 11 Then the LORD told me, 'Unfaithful Israel has shown herself more righteous than treacherous Judah.' "

1Ki 9:8-9 "This Temple will become a pile of ruins. Everyone who passes by it will be so astounded that they will ask, 'Why did the LORD do this to this land and to this Temple?' 9 They will answer, 'Because they abandoned the LORD their God, who brought their ancestors out of the land of Egypt, and they adopted other gods and served them. That's why the Lord has brought all of this disaster on them.' "

The Apostle Paul teaches us, the wife is to be cherished and nurtured by her husband, who makes himself a loving leader for his family, even as Jesus did for the church. She respects his humility and sacrifice and is eager to honor him, knowing that he will always act and speak with her best interest at heart. This is not the case in an abusive relationship. Abuse is a form of control.

Abuse is a pattern of conduct by one spouse which is designed to obtain and maintain power and control over the other spouse. Such abuse can be emotional, verbal, financial, social, sexual, physical, and spiritual; such as twisting scriptures to justify the abuse.

Husbands are human, fallible, sinners. Husbands do not stand in the place of Christ. Their wives relate directly to Christ, not merely through their husbands. Heb 11:6, "Now without faith it is impossible to please God, for whoever comes to Him must believe that He exists and that He rewards those who diligently search for Him." Husbands do not have the wisdom nor the power nor the rights of Christ. Therefore, if an abusive husband is breaking God's law, he is disobeying Christ and is not to be indulged as a master, but correctly disciplined. Abuse is a pattern of behavior demonstrated over a long period of time, and one in which the perpetrator refuses to change despite having been asked to do so. One of the most misquoted and misused verses to support male domination is "…wives should submit to their husbands in everything." Eph. 5:24, thus ignoring Eph 5:22 & Col 3:18, "…as is fit in the Lord."

Bible scripture makes it clear, a man should bear the responsibility for leadership in the home. Eph 5:21-25, "Submit to one another out of reverence for Christ. 22 Wives, submit yourselves to your own husbands as to the Lord. 23 For the husband is the head of the wife as Christ is the head of the church, His body, of which He is the Savior.24 Now as the church submits to Christ, so also wives should submit to their husbands in everything. 25 Husbands, love your wives, just as Christ loved the church and gave Himself up for her." A husband should lead, but not as a tyrant. Eph 5:33, "However, each one of you also must love his wife as he loves himself, and the wife must respect her husband."

By his leadership, she is not demeaned nor robbed of her personality, nor is he given the right to run roughshod over her opinions, feelings, hopes, goals, dreams, or creativity. He is to love and cherish her - even as Christ loved the church. He is to include her in the making of important decisions, weighing and considering her perspectives carefully and respectfully. In the end, the prerogative - and responsibility - of choosing and directing is allotted to the husband. But this option does not give him license to disregard the needs and feelings of his wife. It places the husband under a heavy charge to be even more sensitive and considerate, since he ultimately answers to God for his choices and the way he treats his wife and children. Grave errors have been made through the misapplication of the man's "headship" in the home by society and the church. If a husband is misusing his role, it is advised that the wife speaks with him about her concerns. If he is unwilling to listen, it would be very appropriate for her to bring the matter before a trusted mutual friend, a spiritual leader, and if need to the church, with civil court as a last result.

The Apostle Paul, chosen by Christ to be His voice to the gentiles, shows us in 1Co 7:15, that God allows divorce because of domestic abuse, "But if the {abusive} unbeliever departs, let him depart; a brother or a sister is not under bondage in such cases." Because the unbeliever is not of God or about God. The believer was deceived and thus entrapped or enslaved. Paul used the Greek word douloo which means "to make a slave of." The Greek verb douloo has a stronger force of loosing the marriage than the verb lou which means to loose, douloo meaning there is no further obligation of the marriage vows before God. In such cases the brother or sister is not enslaved nor bound to keep their marriage vows. Paul is saying to let the unbeliever depart because the godly believer is not to be enslaved to such worldly beliefs and abuses. The Greek word "depart," chorizo means "to place space between, to separate" and it was one of the standard terms for legal divorce in the first century.

Abusers Are NOT Pleased to Dwell
Perpetrators of abuse normally do not walk out of their marriages – they want to stay in the relationship because they enjoy the power, privilege, and control they obtain therein. So the victim of abuse thinks this verse does not apply to them. God has called us to peace. Paul was dealing with gentiles. He had to show them wrong attitudes would not be tolerated by God in a marriage. As a result the abused spouse becomes a "spiritual widow or widower," due to the abusive ungodly spouse not being God fearing, nor obedient, and having no intention of obeying God. A wife or husband in such situations, is not bound and is free to re-marry someone who abides by God's laws and truths. Which is why God allows for the end of such marriages. The abuser chose, with such behavior, to reject the teachings of God's laws, with no true intent to ever embrace them. The 1Co 7:15, scripture only applies to abusive marriages by their very conduct and behavior. The abusive spouse is an unbeliever with no intent of true repentance, nor remorse thus never becoming a believer. Abusers often put on an outward show in public, with subtle body language or cryptic verbiage as they continue to control and abuse. An abuser typically resists the call to repentance, either by overtly fighting against having to take responsibility for abusive behavior, or by counterfeiting repentance to get the admonishers off his back and make them think they are really changing. Such conduct is repulsive and offensive to Christ. Jesus dealt with others who wanted to divorce their mates because of lust, so they in: Mar 10:2-12, "… asked if it was right for a man to divorce his wife. 3 Jesus asked them, 'What does the Law of Moses say about that?' 4 They answered, 'Moses allows a man to write out divorce papers and send his wife away.' 5 Jesus replied, 'Moses gave you this law because you are so heartless. 6 But in the beginning God made a man and a woman. 7 That's why a man leaves his father and mother and gets married. 8 He becomes like one person with his wife. Then they are no longer two people, but one. 9 And no one should separate a couple that God has joined together.' 10 When Jesus and his disciples were back in the house, they asked him about what he had said. 11 He told them, 'A man who divorces his wife {for lust} and marries someone else is unfaithfulto his wife. 12 A woman who divorces her husband {for lust} and marries again is also unfaithful.' " Lust is not a reason to divorce! Abusive manipulation by an unequally yoked mate who is hateful and controlling is a valid reason for divorce! – 2Co 6:14. Mat 19:8, Jesus tells us, "… Because of your hardness of your heart Moses allowed you to put away your wives; but from the beginning it was not so." A true believer has a tender heart, so they would willingly repent and cease to behave wickedly. If they error, they would not shift the blame to their spouse. Pleased to dwell with them means they do not have a controlling conduct of abuse and fear that puts down the believing spouse. Nor do they allow any others to "put down" their spouse. 1Co 7:12-15, "I say to the rest of you: If a brother has a wife who is an unbeliever and she is willing to live with him, he must not abandon her. 13 And if a woman has a husband who is an unbeliever and he is willing to live with her, she must not abandon him. 14 For the unbelieving husband has been sanctified because of his wife, and the unbelieving wife has been sanctified because of her husband. Otherwise, your children would be unclean, but now they are holy. 15 But if the unbelieving partner leaves, let him go. In such cases the brother or sister is not under obligation. God has called you to live in peace. The perpetration of domestic abuse effectively pushes away the other spouse and divides the marriage. Many victims who eventually leave abusive relationships testify of this pushing away. Perpetrators usually protest that they want the marriage to continue, but their abusive conduct conveys the exact opposite.

Abusers Are NOT Pleased to Dwell

Perpetrators of abuse normally do not walk out of their marriages – they want to stay in the relationship because they enjoy the power, privilege, and control they obtain therein. So the victim of abuse thinks this verse does not apply to them. God has called us to peace. Paul was dealing with gentiles. He had to show them wrong attitudes would not be tolerated by God in a marriage. As a result the abused spouse becomes a "spiritual widow or widower," due to the abusive ungodly spouse not being God fearing, nor obedient, and having no intention of obeying God. A wife or husband in such situations, is not bound and is free to re-marry someone who abides by God's laws and truths. Which is why God allows for the end of such marriages. The abuser chose, with such behavior, to reject the teachings of God's laws, with no true intent to ever embrace them.

The 1Co 7:15, scripture only applies to abusive marriages by their very conduct and behavior. The abusive spouse is an unbeliever with no intent of true repentance, nor remorse thus never becoming a believer. Abusers often put on an outward show in public, with subtle body language or cryptic verbiage as they continue to control and abuse. An abuser typically resists the call to repentance, either by overtly fighting against having to take responsibility for abusive behavior, or by counterfeiting repentance to get the admonishers off his back and make them think they are really changing. Such conduct is repulsive and offensive to Christ.

Jesus dealt with others who wanted to divorce their mates because of lust, so they in: Mar 10:2-12, "… asked if it was right for a man to divorce his wife. 3 Jesus asked them, 'What does the Law of Moses say about that?' 4 They answered, 'Moses allows a man to write out divorce papers and send his wife away.' 5 Jesus replied, 'Moses gave you this law because you are so heartless. 6 But in the beginning God made a man and a woman. 7 That's why a man leaves his father and mother and gets married. 8 He becomes like one person with his wife. Then they are no longer two people, but one. 9 And no one should separate a couple that God has joined together.' 10 When Jesus and his disciples were back in the house, they asked him about what he had said. 11 He told them, 'A man who divorces his wife {for lust} and marries someone else is unfaithfulto his wife. 12 A woman who divorces her husband {for lust} and marries again is also unfaithful.' " Lust is not a reason to divorce! Abusive manipulation by an unequally yoked mate who is hateful and controlling is a valid reason for divorce! – 2Co 6:14.

Mat 19:8, Jesus tells us, "… Because of your hardness of your heart Moses allowed you to put away your wives; but from the beginning it was not so." A true believer has a tender heart, so they would willingly repent and cease to behave wickedly. If they error, they would not shift the blame to their spouse.

Pleased to dwell with them means they do not have a controlling conduct of abuse and fear that puts down the believing spouse. Nor do they allow any others to "put down" their spouse. 1Co 7:12-15, "I say to the rest of you: If a brother has a wife who is an unbeliever and she is willing to live with him, he must not abandon her. 13 And if a woman has a husband who is an unbeliever and he is willing to live with her, she must not abandon him. 14 For the unbelieving husband has been sanctified because of his wife, and the unbelieving wife has been sanctified because of her husband. Otherwise, your children would be unclean, but now they are holy. 15 But if the unbelieving partner leaves, let him go. In such cases the brother or sister is not under obligation. God has called you to live in peace.

The perpetration of domestic abuse effectively pushes away the other spouse and divides the marriage. Many victims who eventually leave abusive relationships testify of this pushing away. Perpetrators usually protest that they want the marriage to continue, but their abusive conduct conveys the exact opposite.

Summation
These abused men and women need to know that they are loved and valued by God. He hears the cries of their heart, and they will not be held in condemnation by Him, for removing themselves from an abusive relationship; nor are they bound by marriage vows. Their marriage is annulled as though it never took place. They are free to re-marry, and in fact young woman with small children are commanded to re-marry in time: 1Ti 5:14, "I desire therefore that the younger women marry, have children, govern the house, giving no occasion to the adversary to speak reproachfully." Young widows, including spiritual widows, were refused to be on "the list" to receive financial support from the church because they are young enough to re-marry a supporting godly husband. Pro 2:20-22, "Thus you will walk in the ways of the good and keep to the paths of the righteous. For the upright will live in the land, and the blameless will remain in it; but the wicked will be cut off from the land, and the unfaithful will be torn from it." In this passage, the importance of aligning oneself with the ways of the righteous is emphasized. By choosing a spouse who shares the same faith, one can walk in the paths of righteousness and experience the blessings and favor of God. A believer who marries an unbeliever, risks straying from the paths of righteousness and may face spiritual compromise and challenges. This verse encourages believers to seek a spouse who walks in God's ways and upholds biblical truths, ensuring a harmonious and God-honoring marriage. Pro 12:4 "A wife of noble character is her husband's crown, but a disgraceful wife is like decay in his bones." Though this verse primarily focuses on the character of a wife, it also applies to husbands. A spouse who shares the same faith can provide support, encouragement, and companionship in the pursuit of godliness. They become a source of strength and a crown that brings honor to their spouse. Marrying an unbeliever can lead to conflicts in their relationship, as the couple may have opposing world views and priorities. It can also hinder spiritual growth and compromise the believer's commitment to following Christ. Therefore, it is wise to heed this biblical admonition and seek a spouse who shares the same faith. 2Co 6:14 "Do not be yoked together with unbelievers. For what do righteousness and wickedness have in common? Or what fellowship can light have with darkness?" 1Co 7:23 You are bought with a price, do not be the slaves of men. Isa 54:5, "For your Maker is your Husband; the LORD of the Heavenly Armies is His name, and the Holy One of Israel is your Redeemer; He is called the God of the whole earth. Gal 3:26-29, For all of you are God's children through faith in the Messiah Jesus. 27 Indeed, all of you who were baptized into the Messiah have clothed yourselves with the Messiah. 28 Because all of you are one in the Messiah Jesus, a person is no longer a Jew or a Greek, a slave or a free person, a male or a female. 29 And if you belong to the Messiah, then you are Abraham's descendants indeed, and heirs according to the promise. Mal 2:16, "The LORD, the God of Israel, says, 'I hate divorce—and the covering of violence with one's garment,' says the LORD of hosts. 'Therefore guard your spirit, and do not act treacherously.' " God in scripture states that He hates divorce. However He didn't say that He would not divorce those who went astray. He had marriage agreements (covenants) with ancient Israel and Judah, however both were defiant and rebellious and committed adultery, so God gave each a bill of divorcement. Now a new spiritual bride is being prepared for God's Son which includes grafted in Gentiles! Will you be invited to the marriage supper? Rev 19:7-9, " 'Let us be glad and shout with joy; and let us give glory to Him; for the marriage of the Lamb has come, and His wife has made herself ready.' 8 And it was granted to her that she should be clothed in fine linen, pure and bright; for the fine linen is the righteousness of the saints. 9 And he said to me, 'Write: Blessed are those who are called to the marriage supper of the Lamb.' And he said to me, 'These are the true words of God.' "
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Summation

These abused men and women need to know that they are loved and valued by God. He hears the cries of their heart, and they will not be held in condemnation by Him, for removing themselves from an abusive relationship; nor are they bound by marriage vows.

Their marriage is annulled as though it never took place. They are free to re-marry, and in fact young woman with small children are commanded to re-marry in time: 1Ti 5:14, "I desire therefore that the younger women marry, have children, govern the house, giving no occasion to the adversary to speak reproachfully." Young widows, including spiritual widows, were refused to be on "the list" to receive financial support from the church because they are young enough to re-marry a supporting godly husband.

Pro 2:20-22, "Thus you will walk in the ways of the good and keep to the paths of the righteous. For the upright will live in the land, and the blameless will remain in it; but the wicked will be cut off from the land, and the unfaithful will be torn from it." In this passage, the importance of aligning oneself with the ways of the righteous is emphasized. By choosing a spouse who shares the same faith, one can walk in the paths of righteousness and experience the blessings and favor of God. A believer who marries an unbeliever, risks straying from the paths of righteousness and may face spiritual compromise and challenges. This verse encourages believers to seek a spouse who walks in God's ways and upholds biblical truths, ensuring a harmonious and God-honoring marriage.

Pro 12:4 "A wife of noble character is her husband's crown, but a disgraceful wife is like decay in his bones." Though this verse primarily focuses on the character of a wife, it also applies to husbands. A spouse who shares the same faith can provide support, encouragement, and companionship in the pursuit of godliness. They become a source of strength and a crown that brings honor to their spouse.

Marrying an unbeliever can lead to conflicts in their relationship, as the couple may have opposing world views and priorities. It can also hinder spiritual growth and compromise the believer's commitment to following Christ. Therefore, it is wise to heed this biblical admonition and seek a spouse who shares the same faith. 2Co 6:14 "Do not be yoked together with unbelievers. For what do righteousness and wickedness have in common? Or what fellowship can light have with darkness?"

1Co 7:23 You are bought with a price, do not be the slaves of men. Isa 54:5, "For your Maker is your Husband; the LORD of the Heavenly Armies is His name, and the Holy One of Israel is your Redeemer; He is called the God of the whole earth.

Gal 3:26-29, For all of you are God's children through faith in the Messiah Jesus. 27 Indeed, all of you who were baptized into the Messiah have clothed yourselves with the Messiah. 28 Because all of you are one in the Messiah Jesus, a person is no longer a Jew or a Greek, a slave or a free person, a male or a female. 29 And if you belong to the Messiah, then you are Abraham's descendants indeed, and heirs according to the promise.

Mal 2:16, "The LORD, the God of Israel, says, 'I hate divorce—and the covering of violence with one's garment,' says the LORD of hosts. 'Therefore guard your spirit, and do not act treacherously.' "

God in scripture states that He hates divorce. However He didn't say that He would not divorce those who went astray. He had marriage agreements (covenants) with ancient Israel and Judah, however both were defiant and rebellious and committed adultery, so God gave each a bill of divorcement. Now a new spiritual bride is being prepared for God's Son which includes grafted in Gentiles! Will you be invited to the marriage supper? Rev 19:7-9, " 'Let us be glad and shout with joy; and let us give glory to Him; for the marriage of the Lamb has come, and His wife has made herself ready.' 8 And it was granted to her that she should be clothed in fine linen, pure and bright; for the fine linen is the righteousness of the saints. 9 And he said to me, 'Write: Blessed are those who are called to the marriage supper of the Lamb.' And he said to me, 'These are the true words of God.' "

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God is NOT Honored by an Abusive Marriage

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